Master Ron wanted to save me. No one had ever saved me before and it sounded like a dream come true. He made me feel safe, he gave me a security that no other man had ever given me. I would have done almost anything for him. I say almost because it was his final demand that completely broke my trust in our relationship and him and resulted in my escape.
Our relationship was new to me. It was nothing like I had ever experienced before. It was something that I felt I needed. I had engaged in BDSM relationships before but had never been in an 24/7 TPE relationship where it was clear what my daily role was. It gave me structure and purpose. It made me feel wanted and loved. He was much older than me, older than even my own father. I called him Master or Daddy. I was proud to have him rule and protect me. I felt invincible while I was by his side and I didn’t care what anyone thought of our relationship. He gave me attention that no one else had ever given me, including my family. He seemed to care about me and it drew me in. I felt loyal to him and did not question his actions. I felt that surely if he were in the place he was, he must have had the authority to guide me in life.
I was his house-mouse and his number two submissive. He had one other woman who was senior to me in the pecking order of our house and I felt happy in my place. I had my own bedroom and rarely slept with Master Ron. His other submissive slept with him nearly every night. My main role in the house was to keep the house in perfect order by cooking and cleaning and to also cater to his personal needs whenever he wished. I felt that I had purpose and that I was in a “family” who loved and looked out for me. It was everything that my real family had never given me. I craved this closeness and interaction with people who I felt accepted me for myself.
My daily life with Master Ron was highly structured and if I faltered I was punished. Punishment was an important aspect of our relationship, and I craved it. I felt I needed to be corrected and guided. Before meeting Master Ron, I never had a man provide such guidance in my life. Punishments varied depending on my offense. I was punished for anything from not cleaning to Master Ron’s standards to not meeting my weight loss goals. I felt that punishment held me accountable and that with Master Ron’s guidance I was able to hold myself to a higher standard and better myself.
Our relationship began to falter only when his number one submissive went missing. We soon found out that she was living a double life and had a husband and children in a different part of the state. I began to lose trust in Master Ron because I could not understand how he could bring such a lying and manipulative person into our lives. I had exposed every part of myself to Master Ron and his number one submissive and felt betrayed by both of them on numerous levels. I held to my word however and decided to stay loyal to him regardless of my feelings of confusion and betrayal.
And then our happy world was shattered. He offered to abandon his number one submissive and for me to take her place. He was frustrated with her and also felt betrayed. But somehow this change in roles hurt and confused me deep down. I knew that he thought I would take his offer as an honor but in reality it drove a wedge between our relationship. I did not understand how he could so easily drop this woman from his life, regardless of the lies she had spewed at us. We were after all a family who had been through so much together. I felt that our family should have attempted to work out the differences and to move on. I felt that him replacing her behind her back, regardless of her wrong doings was dishonest and honesty was of the utmost importance to me between his and my relationship. I don’t know if this was naive of me but I did not want our family to fall apart. I also feared that if Master Ron could so easily replace his number one, that he could also replace me with ease. Our unique family was something that I never had before and I couldn’t believe that it was falling apart before my eyes.
I never officially accepted his offer, telling him that I would like to see if his number one submissive would return. I not only had a relationship with him, but I had one with her and I respected her as well. I felt loyalty to her much akin to like a sister would. I knew that he felt that I had defied him by not accepting his offer and he began to push me in ways that he had never done so before. At this time in our relationship I was so completely confused and perhaps distant because our family as a whole had been shattered and the family dynamic was something that I felt I needed. He began to punish me in ways that I felt were abusive and were not in my best interest. One such punishment was making me sleep on the floor of the gym for a week while eating nothing but weight loss drinks because I had not met my weekly weight loss goal. This was his first punishment that truly felt wrong to me.
His final demand broke me. He told me that if I was not to be his number one, that I would remain his house-mouse and nothing more. I was to take care of the house and that included his guests. When he said this I had an inkling of where his demand was going. He told me that one of his friends would be coming to visit and that he would sleep with me in my room. I was to “take care” of his friend while he stayed. I was in complete shock. Sleeping with another man was something that he knew I was not willing to do. I felt that Master Ron was attempting to coerce me into doing something that went against everything inside of me because he wanted to see how far he could push me while still staying loyal to him and his demands.
This was one of the first times that I truly trusted my gut. My entire being told me to run and to get out fast. I did not like where our relationship was headed and I was confused as well as hurt. I was self-aware enough to listen to my inner voice and decided to escape. By this point in our relationship, leaving Master Ron truly was escaping because I feared him in many ways that at the time I did not see as unhealthy. We lived in a remote location where no one could help me if I ran. I had no car of my own and relied on him in every way. I could see bad things coming if I did not leave at once. One day while he was out of the house on an errand I quickly packed my bags and arranged to be picked up. I had left before he returned.
One my way out of the remote location I saw him driving towards me on the other side of the road. My heart pounded as I felt all of the fear that I had kept at bay bubbling up inside of me. Luckily, he did not notice me in the passenger seat of the car and he kept driving on. It was at this time that I realized how truly scared I was of him. I was proud of myself for listening to my inner voice and escaping a situation that seemed to be nothing but bad.
For a long time after I escaped Master Ron tried to lure me back into a relationship with him by contacting me through email. He told me that he had wronged me and that things would be different if I were to return. He tempted me with similar mind games that he had played on me once before, but this time I could clearly see them. This time around I listened to my gut and did not return to him. I was so thankful that I had stayed true to my beliefs and my personal limits and that I had not compromised who I was inside. I realized through this relationship that if you compromise yourself for someone else, you may lose yourself completely. I was pleased with myself that I was able to stay true to myself regardless of the situation I was in and how much fear I held inside.
And if finding that staying true to myself was the only lesson that I learned from this relationship, I am still pleased with the outcome. This was a lesson that I had never fully understood before given my upbringing. I had always been taught in various ways that submitting to a man and authority was the right thing to do regardless of your feelings inside. Standing up for your own beliefs was to be put on the back burner. I knew from this experience that holding to my beliefs was in my best interest because I never regretted leaving. It taught me that I can stand up for myself and what I feel is important. Before this point, I was terrified to do so with anyone I saw as an authoritarian figure. It saddens me that I had to experience such drastic measures to understand this lesson that so many other people are taught at a much young age by their caregivers but I am thankful that I had the opportunity to learn it. There have been times since leaving Master Ron that I have chosen to ignore this lesson out of self doubt and I have learned even more from doing so. Life after all, is about living and learning.